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原文链接地址关注微信号：家庭心理健康你是在奖励孩子还是在贿赂孩子？Reward or Bribe？Tian 家庭心理健康区分奖励和贿赂：在孩子“行为问题”之前的奖励，视为奖励。在孩子“行为问题”之后的“奖励”，视为贿赂。成年人要赞美、表扬“孩子的行为”、“孩子做了什么”。可以真诚地用身体语言来赞美（俯身拥抱，微笑，说话的语调）。(Rewarding thechild for good behaviour is a positive and effective method of discipline. Thiscan be done with hugs, smiles, toneof voice, and praise. Praise can always be tied with the act, such as"Thank you, Zoe, for picking upyour toys" or "I appreciate your standing quietly like that". The encouragement ofpositive behaviour eliminates many of the undesirable effects of punishment.)出门前告诉孩子，“如果你行为举止合宜，你可以在我买完菜之后挑个玩具”，这是奖励，是对“行为举止合宜”的鼓励。在孩子“捣蛋”之前没有约定好，而是等出现了“行为问题”之后才说，“你现在要乖，这样我就给你买一个玩具”，这是贿赂，是对“不合宜行为”的加强。(Rewards shouldnot be confused with bribes. The parent may offer a child a reward if he or shebehaves well in specific situation before an incident occurs. For example, theparent may say, "You may pick out one small toy after we are finishedshopping if you behave during this trip."If this agreementis not made before an incident and child misbehaves and then is offered one small toy to behave, this is a bribe that serves to reinforce the bad behaviourand is not a desirable technique of behaviour management.
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